Sometimes? Sometimes I just miss the way I felt watching a new OUAT episode once a week and rushing to this damned site to see what other people thought of it.
Some gay men really put 0 hours of work into unlearning their hatred of women’s bodies and anatomy it’s embarrassing. Like i’m super fucking sorry that you’ve got a pussy ick thing going on but i got over it after like one conversation with a friend and you’re 29 years old publicizing your pussy ick on twitter dot com dot gov posting about how super fucking hard it is that trans men are also in gay bars and that’s Not Valid because ewwww they have vacheena which is the opposite of gay eeewwwwwww! And you have to let everybody know that you’re gay not because you like men but because you hate pussy so much it makes you transphobic. Like how can you even continue to serve cunt in such a state
To my gay brothers, especially to those of you who are younger and more directly under this pressure, I hope you feel no guilt or shame for not wanting to sleep with someone of the female sex, for feeling uncomfortable or repulsed at the idea of having penis-in-vagina intercourse. This is woke homophobia. It’s not okay for someone to guilt or shame you for having the sexual boundaries surrounding your sexual orientation that you have, or to coerce and pressure you into heterosexual sex. You are fine the way you are.
Some ppl will read “publicly declaring how much you hate vaginas or resent trans men in gay spaces as a way of socializing as a gay man is transphobic” and reinterpret that as “they’re trying to make us have sex with them”.
I tend to think this is due to wilful misunderstanding, because claiming we are trying to “make you sleep with us” is such a violent and potent tool to use against us, to get us excluded and otherwise participate in our genocide.
Let me make it real simple for you. Some gay men bond and socialize by talking about how vaginas are disgusting. This needs to stop. And you need to grow up enough to realize that declaring that pussy is soooo yucky is not the same thing as declining to have sex with people with a pussy. Any adult should be able to realize that.
I left a support group for gay men with my particular disability because of the constant banter about pussy being gross, despite repeated requests to cool it. The group had claimed to be trans inclusive. It wasn’t, obviously. Later it turned out it was also moderated by racists and they were declining membership requests from Black men. It all goes together. It’s all pieces of one big disgusting ideology.
So grow the fuck up.
Just to note, I have in fact had gay dudes in my life try to bond with me through queer culture by talking about how pussy is gross. I am a butch queer woman. This doesn’t seem to matter: it seems that guys like this only really interact or think about interacting with straight women and cis gay men, and they tend to assume that strategies for one or the other of those categories will work for me. Protip: doesn’t work that way, bucko!
These gentlemen are inevitably confused and taken aback if I object to this, because in their non-work lives apparently they never hang out with anyone but other cis gay men and maybe a couple other queers who tolerate this shit. So let me make this clear: performing exaggerated disgust at how gross you find my genitals is not a way to make fucking friends. It is not cute. It is not fun. It is not cheeky.
I always want to tell them: if you don’t stop, I’m going to have to explain this to you and let you sit in uncomfortable silence while I explain all the weird things I do not like about male bodies, which is a thing I do not bring up often and particularly not ever around my dude and transmasc friends for the simple reason that their bodies do not exist for my pleasure. I don’t have to like their bodies. I just have to like my friends. It’s hard for me to like my friends when they’re telling me my body is gross, which is what you’re doing. If I need to do the same thing to get it through your head that this feels bad, I will, but I hate having to do that. So please just think before you speak, yeah?
